Is there an area of your life in which you feel stuck? You know you want or even need to make a change, but for some reason, you can’t seem to make it happen.
Whether it is meeting that special someone, landing a better job, pursuing a fun hobby or shrinking the size of your waistline, you find yourself in the same old situation, feeling disillusioned, frustrated and maybe even hopeless.
In order to make any lasting changes in life, the first step must involve a willingness to be open and honest with oneself. To know what we truly desire, we must know who we are. Ask yourself, do I really want what I say I want? And then listen for the answer.
If your response was no, then you may be trying to live up to someone else’s dreams for you.
If your answer was an unequivocal “yes,” then you may want to consider that whether we are aware of it or not, there is usually a payoff for staying stuck even when we say we want to change. In other words, there is a benefit to staying where you are.
What is the benefit of not having a significant other, not pursuing a better job or not trying to get into better shape? Why would you not want to find ways of having more fun? At first glance it may seem like the answer is nothing, but if you delve deeper, you may be surprised by what you discover.
Another reason why people resist change is that there may be fear associated with doing something differently. What might happen if you try something new, open your heart to love or become more physically fit? What might happen that feels scary?
If you feel stuck, you have two choices. You can do nothing differently and most likely you will continue experiencing the same results you have been living. Or, you can decide to have the courage to ask yourself some new questions and start taking small steps toward creating a new reality. Which do you choose?
If you want to learn more on how you can create positive changes in your life, attend the upcoming workshop on October 1st, Feeling Stuck? How to Make the Change that Finally Sticks. RSVP by contacting Isabel Martin-Ventura, Life and Career Coach at isabelmartinventura.com or 917-747-8624.
