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Question of the Day: Do You Support Marriage Equality?

The state Legislature appears on the verge of approving same-sex marriage.

New York's state Legislature seems close to passage of a bill that would permit same-sex marriage. Gov. Cuomo introduced the bill Tuesday in both houses of the Legislature and a vote could come as early as Thursday.

What do you think? Should New York become the sixth state in the country to allow gay people to marry?

Eric June 15, 2011 at 05:30 pm
Frank, I think you're missing the thrust of this question. Nobody is saying that the politicians in Albany (from either party) are perfect - far from it! But in our current governmental system, they are the only ones with the power to grant equality to ALL people of New York. Like it or not, marriage is regulated by our civil government, and so any improvements in the system need to be made by that very same government. Right now, there are New Yorkers who are unable to marry the person of their choice, and are treated as second-class citizens, without the hundreds of basic rights that civil marriage grants to its participants.
As of now, the NY Senate is only one vote shy of the majority needed to pass this landmark legislation for equality before the senate adjourns for the summer. If you agree that all New Yorkers should be treated equally, please call Jack Martins at his Albany office TODAY ((518) 455-3265), and ask him to join his Republican colleagues who have courageously put aside politics to do the right thing.
Amy Waldhauer June 15, 2011 at 07:50 pm
Frank, religion is used as an excuse for not granting the right to marry to everyone. I think that's the connection, though I cannot imagine why. The Founding Fathers clearly did not want a state religion, and so I doubt they would intended religion to be the basis of our laws.
I think that Kelly's point is that certain sects choose to follow parts of the Bible that in their interpretation say that homosexuality is bad (though, oddly, they ignore the surrounding text), and it is entirely within their right to do so. But that doesn't mean that the rest of the people have to follow them.
Nancy June 15, 2011 at 08:42 pm
I wholly support marriage equality. I also don't think that anyone was trying to "drag religion" into the issue. Rather, I think that the poster was stating that religions are within their right to oppose such things, but as there is supposed to be a separation of church and state in this country, our laws should not be bound by those beliefs. Furthermore, a religious service is not what gives you your legal marriage status (and with it the "perks" of marriage -- equal protection under the law, property, pensions, insurance etc). Those provisions are given by the license that is granted to you by your State's government.
Kelly Campbell June 16, 2011 at 04:04 am
Thank you. That is exactly what I was saying. There are plenty of organized religions that do allow/acknowledged same-sex marriages and some (more) that do not. Pick one that does or fight that religion about it. Not the government. IMHO, same-sex marriages should be legal. Meaning the same-sex spouse can't be barred from hospital rooms or from automatically inheriting assets or whatever other rights we are granted upon a legal marriage. That doesn't seem fair. Incidentally, homosexuals have been, in my experience, an asset to the various communities I've shared with them.
Linda June 16, 2011 at 12:05 pm
I WILL NOT vote for Senator Martins if he votes no on this bill. I urge others who agree with my position to make this clear to the Senator.
Rich Jacques (Editor) June 16, 2011 at 01:26 pm
Question in a question: Which is the more important issue to you, the economy or gay marriage? Please choose one or the other.
Amy Waldhauer June 16, 2011 at 01:41 pm
It's a question of getting things done. Gay marriage is easy. One vote and done!
The economy is much more difficult. For example, there is a movement to cap property taxes. Property taxes help to pay for our schools. If we reduce property taxes we will have to get more money from Albany, and so it seems to me that we have to raise income taxes. It's so complex. So, IMO we should focus on the civil rights issue first, and think about the complicated issue of how we are to fund public services after that.
Jen LaVertu June 16, 2011 at 01:55 pm
Rich~ The economy.
Rich Jacques (Editor) June 16, 2011 at 02:08 pm
@Amy: The idea of gay marriage is many things to many people with strong and valid opinions on both sides. It would be a stretch to say it's an easy issue or any less complex than the economy because of such impact. Again, which issue is more important to you, the slumping economy or gay rights? That was the question (in a question).
Frank H. June 16, 2011 at 04:27 pm
@Rich: What kind of a federal decision would you like on the matter?
Rich Jacques (Editor) June 16, 2011 at 04:41 pm
I would like a federal law making gay marriage either legal or illegal nationwide (I'll leave my opinion out of it). I believe the debate is one of national interest and needs to be addressed on that level. To me, deciding it at the state level is a waste of money and time. I say send it to the top and I'll accept that decision either way.
Amy Waldhauer June 16, 2011 at 06:09 pm
You can't really compare the two.
Extending civil rights to gays would be a boost to businesses here. If you are gay and want to get married, you have to go out of state right now, or out of the country (I know of a few couples who went to Vancouver.) I am sure that many people would have preferred to have their weddings on Long Island. My point is that gay marriage is easy to do. Just make it legal and stop horsing around. As the saying goes, "Against gay marriage? Don't marry one." Live and let live. Fixing the economy is much harder. It's not a New York issue as much as a national one. We are doing pretty well, comparatively speaking. But we share the problem of unemployment with the rest of the country. Companies laid off lots of people, and now they are doing well because they make the remaining people work twice as hard. No one wants to complain because they don't want to lose their jobs. Overtime (usually unpaid) is the norm. But is that the whole problem? Of course not. It's way more complicated than that.
S. Joy June 16, 2011 at 07:50 pm
There was a time we viewed the idea of interracial marriage as an atrocity. People even pointed to the religious scriptures to demonize the union. As a society we moved forward and changed the law. We demanded social justice and the end of second class citizenships. We need to do the same now and support equal marriage for all.
Bob Rabey June 19, 2011 at 06:52 am
As of the time I read this, there were 22 comments listed on the subject. Not one addressed this point. Marriage is a sanctity between a man and a woman, period. I believe that there should be equal rights for both marriage and unions. Why must it be called marriage?
Amy Waldhauer June 19, 2011 at 11:32 am
@Bob: There are many laws on the books related to "marriage." What is just is to extend the rights guaranteed by those laws to all loving couples. It is much less complicated to extend the term "marriage" to all New Yorkers than to change all the laws.
The problem you have, I think, is that you want to reserve the term "marriage" to heterosexual couples. Why don't you use another word? "Holy Matrimony" springs to mind. The majority of New Yorkers are in favor of gay marriage. You may have to adapt to that and find another word to use.
Foxsong June 19, 2011 at 04:39 pm
I am an ordained Interfaith minister in NY State, and nowhere does the law compel me to marry every couple who asks; if I see signs of trouble that make me feel uncomfortable about them I am free to suggest they seek a different minister. So I am not certain why the religious institutions need special wording so specifically exempting them from performing same-sex unions. Don't they already have the right to refuse their services to any couple who do not, in their eyes, meet the standards necessary for marriage within their faith?
TheGreek June 19, 2011 at 05:10 pm
It MUST be called marriage because "separate but equal" is still discrimination, as ruled by the US Supreme Court’s interpretation of the 14 amendment to the US Constitution.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brown_v._Board_of_Education http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fourteenth_Amendment_to_the_United_States_Constitution
Amy Waldhauer June 19, 2011 at 09:32 pm
Well then, TheGreek, marriage has to be called marriage, no matter is it is between a man or a woman, or two women, or two men. I just meant that Bob could find another word to describe his special definition of marriage. How about "straight marriage?"
An alternative is to make all benefits accruing to the spouse apply to a "life partner." We can change the word for the people in the marriage. Rather than husband or wife we can just say spouse. In some countries it is the civil ceremony that matters, not the religious one. You can get married twice (once legally and once in the church) if you want. If we do the same thing then Bob could have his special status by marrying in the church after he gets married for real (though not all churches -- there are many that will marry same sex couples).
Tom M June 20, 2011 at 05:30 pm
Marriage is, has, and always should be defined as a union between a man and a woman whose children are a part of that union. Any other version is simply incongruent with reason and is an attempt by those who advocate for recognizing marriage any other way to force yet another form of moral relativism on people. No, marriage cannot be other than that which it is. The "live and let live" crowd are just as complicit in the undermining of our societal values as those who would have marriage defined differently from how it is defined today. Same sex couples enjoy the same legal protections as married couples and do not, should not, and cannot expect anymore than that.
Duncan June 20, 2011 at 07:21 pm
Let us speak of incongruencies. In a world of absolutes, a world of 'is's, a world where the strength of an institution generates the definition, without question, of that thing, then their can be no relativity because, as we know, relitivity buy its nature, is subject to the understanding specific to the observer at hand, ie, the saying "it is relative..."
Now, of reason, or the rational grasp of a set of like situations catagorised by ones own reality and with time and observation, understanding our own condition response reactions to that set of conditions, and reacting not from that conditioned response but from a mature, human mind; it seems to me that to be incongruent to reason is to react without thought, however I am not sure I understand "incongruent with reason", regardless, it seems to me that their is alot of thought from everyone on this topic. Be that as it may, I do agree that some thing can not be other than what it is, and that is absolute. However as a culture it is up to us to define the boundries by which we deliniate the things that are not absolut truths. Its not as if we are talking about the earth right now, which of coarse, is flat. D- "the live and let live crowd"
Duncan June 20, 2011 at 08:41 pm
Oh, and by the way, I do support same sex marriage. Furthermore, I am a heterosexual male, married, with a daughter.
I want to live in a world where the strength of the family creates the sanctity of a institution. It is a sad thing when we feel a word is the essence of the union, where in fact it is the essence of the union that creates the word. Either way, the strait world hasn't been keeping the "Holy Institution of Marriage" all that sacred, I say we open it up to everyone. Perhaps, if one has the strength to "come out" than that individual might actually know themselves pretty well, and maybe the national divorce rate will go down? Maybe not, but I say lets wake up to 2011 and act like a cultured society.
Amy Waldhauer June 20, 2011 at 08:56 pm
@Tom: It is interesting that you define marriage in terms of the husband. I am curious about what you think of the high divorce rate. It brings the question of how step children ( who are not the children of that union).
Same sex couples do not share the same rights as married couples. Only a woman can benefit from her male partner's social security, and only a man can benefit from his female partner's. A man's wife is covered by his medical insurance, but a male partner is not covered. There are many other examples. We have many laws that are written in terms of "marriage." It is the right and just thing to extend the rights provided by those laws to all couples. If we need to use the word "marriage" then you will have to put up with that. If it means so much to you then work to replace the language in the laws so you are happy. But please recognize that you are in the minority. According to the polls, most New Yorkers are in favor of gay marriage. You will have to also work to get support for you new word.
Denise Roche June 22, 2011 at 03:59 pm
@Tom M - Gay couples DO NOT "enjoy the same legal protections as married couples." That is what this is all about.
Cathy Ribando June 23, 2011 at 11:14 pm
Marriage should be available to all or available to none. If it is not available to all, it is discrimination. This is a human rights issue. It has nothing to do with the actual word, but of treating all people equally. No one should have the right to decide what is right or wrong for someone else just because it is different from themselves. It is amazing that we are still arguing over this.
The issue of religious organizations wanting specific wording in the Marriage Equality Act is for their own protection of being sued for denying same sex couples the right to marry in a particular church, having a reception in a specific catering hall, etc. The problem is that many organizations call themselves religious for tax purposes, but are not a church (i.e. the Knights of Columbus). The wording of the document to be brought to the senate voting floor could actually contain exceptions to allow discrimination. Or senators must be very careful what they accept. By the way, please contact your senator to encourage him/her to vote yes on marriage equality. It is not too late.
michael cruse June 25, 2011 at 07:44 pm
Seeing 2 big greasy hairy men saying they are husband and wife, is a scary thing to imagine.
Robin Bertone June 25, 2011 at 07:46 pm
I am glad I live down south in the Bible belt where there is still some standerd of living, We moved from the liberal north a while back and am so glad we did. " Woa is it when you call good evil and evil good"; Sodom and Gamora alls it is. The homosexuals have been around long before now they were there back in bible times God did not approve then, and He does not approve now, some man made religions change there rules concerning it but Gods word hasn't changed. God does love everyone, but He does not love the things we do and homosexuality is one of those things. Look at Dennis Jernigen a christian artist who God took out of that live and what he had to say about it. There is no standard these days and this generation has not even for the most part been brought up with any since of God at all so what does one expect.
Marc Rosen June 26, 2011 at 08:28 am
That would be unconstitutional. The separation of powers clause specifically states that marriage is a power reserved to the states.
Marc Rosen June 26, 2011 at 08:33 am
You don't seem to have many standards either. You go out of your way to comment on a post all the way up north, try to bring "liberalism" into a common-sense concept, and refuse to acknowledge that your god does not hold public office and has no say in how man governs man. This is a SECULAR nation, and always has been. People like you are a threat to our sovereignty.
Denise Flynn June 29, 2011 at 11:55 am
so turn the other way & do not look. I doubt you will be forced to watch.
Denise Flynn June 29, 2011 at 12:02 pm
Well said Marc. Robin from the bible belt is scary. It can be a good thing that she fled the "liberal north", one less judgemental hate monger up here!

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